When You Don’t Want To


Clif and I were out with friends last weekend and got home later than we’d planned. And according to our dogs who’d been waiting for their evening snack, it was well past their normal feeding time. Tired from the evening, I asked one of the kids to take care of that job for me while I tended to a couple of other tasks to shut down the house before heading to bed. Now, I wasn’t expecting joyful gratitude for the opportunity to scoop and serve kibbles to the four scruffy-faced canines that share our house, but in this instance, quiet compliance would do. But instead, my simple request was met with indigence, punctuated with an audible huff, and deliberate stomping across the hardwoods.


Since I was tired and not in the right frame of mind to calmly deal with that kind of display, I launched into a 5+ minute lecture focusing on the many wonderful things that, as part of our family, this kid was a beneficiary of, and how the best way to show gratitude and thankfulness would be to help out and be willing to do what we ask, even when it’s not necessarily a favorite job to do.

After I’d cooled down and gotten some distance from the situation, I thought through the scene with a little more detached mindset, and couldn’t help but wonder if this incident wasn’t very similar to how we as believers often act toward God.


The New Testament is filled with simple and clear commands describing what is right and acceptable behavior for those who follow God. For example, Romans 13 says to submit ourselves to the governing authorities (vs 1), Galatians 5 instructs us to “serve one another humbly in love” (vs 13), Colossians 3 challenges us to live pure lives by “putting to death …immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed” and James 1 is clear that we should “look after orphans and widows.” Yet how many of us bristle at anything that might get in the way of our plans and stiffen with resistance when those instructions cause us to be inconvenienced or uncomfortable. How much it must ache the heart of God to see our immaturity and thanklessness!


While ‘good works’ are never the means by which we earn acceptance and love from the Lord, they are definitely concrete ways that we can demonstrate our gratitude for what He has already done for us by adopting us into his family and blessing “us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenlies in Christ Jesus.” (Eph 1:3, 5)

There are a lot of wonderful things we are invited to do in serving God that make us feel good and bring personal satisfaction, but just like in the incident with my kid, there are times that we can best say “thank you” to the Lord with an obedient heart and a submissive “yes” to whatever He asks and then just follow through and “go feed the dog.”

 “… but I do as the Father has commanded me,
so that the world may know that I love the Father.” ~ John 14:31


10 thoughts on “When You Don’t Want To

  1. My dear Karen, what a wonderful and beautiful post! The last paragraph was oh-so-good and true!

    Thank you so much for sharing with Roses of Inspiration….I hope you’re able to join us again. Hugs and joy! Stephanie – The Enchanting Rose

  2. You just described every believer who has ever lived. We have all reacted this way at one time or another. My is more that one time! Thank you for the reminders through Scripture of how thankful we should always be for what God in Christ has done for us. I loved the last verse you pulled out, it is perfect. Visiting today from Thankful Thursday! Have a great week:)

  3. Firstly, your fur babies are precious. And then, yes…I think I’ve stomped my feet a few times and made excuses when I should have just said thank you and served well. So glad we have a God of grace who loves us even when we forget our place. 🙂 Glad to be your neighbor at #threewordwednesday.

    1. Oh me too, Tiffany! A few foot stomping days over here too. And yes, so grateful for grace upon grace when we throw a fit instead of serving well. thanks!

  4. Reminds me of the hymn, “Let’s bring a sacrifice of praise into the house of the Lord.” Why would praising God be a sacrifice? It’s when things are not going well. Praising God is the last thing we want to do. Yet, it’s most important at those times. Indeed, it’s a sacrifice.

    1. I have to do a lot with a fractured shoulder, but my hubs of 42 years does more and never complains…I think one has to really give in a marriage & in life esp. women..If you want to be happy do what you are expected to do say no to the frivolous and be grateful for everything in your life, even a fractured right shoulder I went into a restaurant to ask directions, caught my foot on a rug at the door flew across the floor and did a big number on my right side, knees and head to boot..It was painful and all encompassing..The only salvation was my husband was with me looking for me and this sweet server got him and called an ambulance and was comforting, the owners were not on the premisis and have not returned my phone calls regarding liability for my hospital bill for one hour and five minutes and one ex-ray..the pain comes and goes can’t use my right side and I am right sided and have noticed how my friends treat me great, I am grateful I did not impale my head on a chair I was paper thin close..Guess I was thrown to floor to look up to God and thank him for being alive!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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